After a very long time of weekly therapy appointments with no evident change or lifting of the depression that gripped me, I one day marched into the therapist’s office to declare that I was done with trying to improve, to get better, to make changes in...

  A member of my congregation once argued that the key element in aging well was learning to be dependent.  I felt terrified by such an idea—because it rang true for me.  We spend the first half of our lives developing an increasing level of independence, from...

I recently came way too close to a tornado, close enough to be in the swirl of debris a tornado accumulates along its path, close enough to narrowly miss having a tree dropped on my car.  As is often the case when one skates near disaster, the tornado encounter has...

As a minister, I believe that keeping promises is crucial and hold it as one of my highest values.  Within a congregation, covenants—which are a series of promises the people in a congregation make to one another—serve to bind individuals together in a community. ...

Two friends and I have been reading and discussing The Inner Work of Aging by Connie Zweig. We recently completed a chapter that invited the exercise of a life review, in which one considers all that one has done, a kind of summing up of the journey and reflection on...

I thought by now my life would be different, or rather that I would be different.  I took to heart that typical response of adults to children’s questions once complicated matters have moved into focus, how “you’ll understand when you get older.” I counted on reaching...

No one ever steps in the same river twice, for it is not the same river and one is not the same person. – Heraclitus I am returning to my blog and website after a long time away.  Having been immersed in interim ministry that required the exhausting process of...

One phrase I hear often in conversations about church gatherings is the phrase “showing up”:  people talk of the need to show up, the importance of showing up, just how a person shows up.  With the pandemic, we learned a whole new way of showing up that had not...

In a recent meeting of those leading antiracist work in the church I presently serve, we were asked to reflect on how we “step into discomfort” in our lives.  The question has its roots in the recognition that in order to do antiracist work, specifically the part of...

Perhaps because of the wonderful availability of GPS systems that can guide us to almost any destination, even give us options of routes that allow us to avoid road construction or tolls, we may fall into believing that no matter the course of our life journey, we...